Language evolves, and while some expressions age gracefully, others fall out of favor as society grows more mindful of inclusivity and respect. Baby boomers grew up in a time when certain phrases were tossed around casually, often without a second thought. But today, many of these once-common expressions are seen as outdated, offensive, or just plain insensitive. Let’s take a look at 15 phrases boomers might remember using that are now left in the past for good reason.
1. “Pull yourself up by your bootstraps”
This classic idiom about self-reliance has fallen out of favor as people recognize that not everyone starts on equal footing in life.
2. “Sit Indian style”
Used to describe sitting cross-legged, this phrase has been replaced with terms like “criss-cross applesauce” to avoid cultural insensitivity.
3. “You people”
While it might sound innocuous in some contexts, this phrase often carried undertones of separation or judgment, making it a red flag in today’s more inclusive society.
4. “Man up”
Encouraging someone to “man up” dismisses vulnerability and perpetuates outdated gender stereotypes. It’s fallen out of favor as discussions around mental health and gender roles evolve.
5. “Boys will be boys”
Once an excuse for bad behavior, this phrase has been criticized for dismissing accountability and reinforcing harmful gender norms.
6. “Cry me a river”
This dismissive response to someone’s feelings doesn’t fly as well in a time when empathy is more valued than ever.
7. “What are you, blind?”
Using a disability as a punchline or critique is no longer acceptable as society becomes more aware of the impact of such casual insults.
8. “Long time no see”
Though many still use this phrase innocently, its origins as a mockery of non-native English speakers have made it problematic for some.
9. “Rule of thumb”
While commonly used to indicate a general guideline, many believe this phrase has historical ties to domestic violence, leading some to abandon it in favor of less charged alternatives. Though its origins may actually pre-date the legal case where this expression was used, the belief is strong enough to stick.
10. “Don’t be a girl”
Dismissing someone as weak or overly emotional with this phrase has become taboo as society moves away from belittling feminine traits.
11. “Gypped”
Derived from stereotypes about the Romani people, this phrase is considered offensive and is being replaced with alternatives like “cheated” or “ripped off.”
12. “Eskimo kiss”
This term for rubbing noses has been swapped for “nose kiss,” “butterfly kiss,” “bunny kiss,” or other neutral alternatives, respecting the Inuit people and their culture.
13. “Peanut gallery”
Originally a term for cheap theater seats, this phrase has ties to segregated audiences and is often replaced with phrases like “backseat commentary.”
14. “Off the reservation”
Once used to describe someone acting unpredictably, this phrase is now recognized as disrespectful to Native American history and experiences.
15. “You look good for your age”
Though often meant as a compliment, this phrase feels unnecessary today when people prefer to be celebrated for looking good, period—no qualifiers needed.
As language shifts to reflect societal growth, these phrases are a reminder of how far we’ve come in understanding the power of words. While boomers might remember these sayings from their youth, leaving them behind is a small but meaningful way to embrace a more thoughtful and inclusive world.
